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You don’t have to go overboard by going to a fancy restaurant every other day or going on vacations that you cannot afford. Mind you those things help but, sometimes the little things that mean the most. Here are five things you can do that will improve your relationship and will allow you to have the best love making experience:

1. Listening

The lack of communication can be very frustrating to women but not listening can really get their dander up. Many men have been accused of concentrating more on whatever was on television than our wives and girlfriends. To a large degree it’s true. Most women like to talk about personal matters that have a direct bearing on their lives, their family or friends. What’s on TV at that time is irrelevant. Show that you appreciate her by listening. Don’t just wait for her to start talking. Initiate the conversation sometimes, and then listen carefully not only to what she says but her body language as well. This is not a one shot deal. Listening to her on a steady basis can only help better your relationship.

2. The Small Occasion Celebration

We’ve all seen the shows where the woman gets upset because the husband forgets their anniversary or birthday. That quite honestly should never happen. However for a lot of women, there are many smaller occasions that mean just as much; for instance the anniversary of your first date or the day both of you bought something together.

Being able to surprise your lady with little things that you know mean something to her (something she probably figured you took no notice of) can be a major relationship booster. If you have to “cheat” a little bit then get your own personal journal to keep track of these things.

3. Get to Know her People

Women value their relationships. While many men are of the take it or leave it mentality, it is very important to most women that you get to know her family and friends. These are people who make up a special part of her life and by taking the energy and effort to genuinely get to know them, you are showing her how much you love and care for her.

They maybe coming from a perspective that you are not crazy about but hang in there. Be open minded and respectful. The chances are that somewhere down the line you will want her to meet your people. Extend the same courtesies to her family and friends that you would expect from her if the situations were reversed.

It’s easy to get stuck in a routine and set in our ways. But it’s most important to continually show the lady of your life that you love her. Again it doesn’t take extravagance. Get to know her people, be mindful of the small big occasions and above all listen. Doing these three things is planting the seeds of long term healthy relationship.

4. Give Up Trying to Change the Other Person

The desire to fix or change the other person is one of the biggest mistakes you can make. Plus, it causes power struggles within relationships and issues of control. One person feels she cannot love the other unless the other changes. The other feels hurt, inadequate and as though something is wrong with him.

Having a healthy relationship means having the ability to love your partner as they are. Our partners have been put here to grow, develop and discover who they are. This can be a lengthy and challenging process. But the surprising thing about change is that the less we push and disapprove of others, the more easily and naturally they grow and change.

5. Develop Patience

Patience is an old-fashioned word in today’s world. However, there is no way to rush growth in relationships or in the development of joy. If you’re eager to get on the right track, there are two ways to get started: Learn how to be more giving and make an effort to be a better listener. But each one of these tasks takes time to master — and patience. That’s why it is necessary to realize that as we are, right now at this moment, we are lovable and acceptable. If you’re ready to increase the amount of joy you feel in your own relationship, take back the responsibility for finding joy in your life, you will be pleased at the results.

Having a baby is an amazing thing. Who knew you could make something so perfect? And who knew it could do that much damage to your belly? Stretch marks are one of the most discouraging things after having a baby. Women can feel embarrassed, or unattractive because of their stretch marks.

Stretch marks can also happen if someone has gained a lot of weight in a short period of time. As the body gets larger, whether you’re gaining weight or pregnant, the skin stretches to accommodate the new size. The stress and stretching on the skin creates scars. These scars are stretch marks. People get stretch marks everywhere, from their tummy to their back to their legs and arms. There are a couple of ways to get rid of them, but most people don’t want to have a painful surgery.

While surgery is a pretty extreme way of treating stretch marks, a lot of women are finding out that Shea Butter in its unrefined certified organic form can help. Shea Butter comes from the kernel of the Karite Nut tree. It is becoming very popular in the United States, because of it’s amazing healing powers. It can reduce scars and help them fade. It is also amazing for skin rashes, dry skin, eczema, insect bites, and many other things.

You will want to make sure that when you decide to purchase Shea Butter, that you purchase it from a company who only sells 100% all natural unrefined organic Shea Butter. The refined Shea Butters are pumped full of damaging and toxic chemicals. Also, all of the healing powers of Shea Butter are lost during the refining process.

Smooth the healing Shea Butter on any area of your body that has stretch marks and be consistent. Do it every day. You will notice the reddish or purple stretch marks fading to a much lighter color. Your stretch marks will not be as noticeable, and depending upon how bad they are, you may not even be able to see them at all within a month. Use your Shea Butter on all areas of your body. It works wonders for dry, tired feet and is known for it’s anti aging properties. You just can’t go wrong with all natural unrefined Shea Butter.

Men and women are so different when it comes to relationships. “I’ll never understand women!” How many times have we heard that from men! Many men are fed up with women that nag and complain or are moody. How would the man feel if they knew that they are the cause and the angry woman is the affect! “But I’ve done nothing wrong!” Shout the men, “she’s just crazy, I do love her can’t she see that!”

I want to talk to the women just for a moment.

How many times do you ask your man to do something and it doesn’t happen? Do feel that you just can’t trust him to do what you ask?

How many times do you wish he would do or say something that makes you feel good without being prompted from you? You know you’re not the most beautiful woman in the world but you just want to know you’re beautiful in his eyes.

How many times does your man let you down and you have to take control? Do you wish he would just be a man! Sometimes you just want to feel like a woman and be looked after… just sometimes!

How many times do you drop hints with a vain hope that your man will pick up on these signals. Can he not see what you are saying, it is so obvious.

How does all this make you feel? Yes I know, frustrating isn’t it?

Now I want to talk to the men.

Does your partner behave in a way you just don’t get?

Do you know there is something wrong but you don’t understand what it is?

Do you get so frustrated because she just does not make sense, you then argue and that just makes it worse.

I am going to tell you now that women do not think about relationships the way that you do! When you understand what is really happening within her, you will make your life easier and create a brilliant relationship, isn’t that what you want? After all, you do love her. Why doesn’t she get that?

She is after good emotions that you can help her create. When she is complaining, nagging, or going silent on you, she is giving you a message. You have done something that means to her that she cannot trust you. These little feelings build up in her and before you know it, she has found 20 small displays from you that equal you cannot be trusted and now she is angry.

You do one more thing wrong and your in trouble! To you these are trivial and mean nothing, to her it is now proof! Without trust, she cannot feel secure and it is security that she is after and fighting for. These displays that irritate you have good underlying intentions; she just wants the relationship to work.

Security, security, security! Women crave this from a man and this is your key to success. What she wants is to know that you will always be there no matter what! You have to prove it not just with words but also by actions, continuous actions. She wants to know you will be there for her even if she screams at you, becomes unreasonable, and does not make sense! Well to you anyway! She wants you to be a man because that will help her feel like a woman. When she was growing up, she had a vision of the perfect man, one that would sweep her off her feet and look after her until the day she dies. This is a secure feeling and she craves for it!

When you help her feel like a woman she will stop at nothing to make you feel like a man, this is fantastic for your relationship and is what you are both after.

Who in this world does not wish for that perfect shape of the lips? But each one of us is not that lucky to have them and even slight imperfections of our lips cause great distress to us. Never mind, this little problem could be solved very easily. What you need to do is just know the right way to create great-looking lips in no time. Here we are with the tips to help you give your lips that balanced and beautiful shape.

Big Lips: For the big lips you should use muted colors such as purples, browns and bronzes.

Small Lips:
In case of small lips in order to balance the uneven shape of lips you should use a light shade of lipstick.
To make your lips look fuller, line the lips with a lip pencil and then blend the edges with a sponge applicator.
If you want to make lips appear smaller, use concealer over natural lip line. Line just inside natural lip line. Fill in new lip shape with lipstick.

Thin Lips:
You should draw lip outline with a neutral-colored lip pencil slightly beyond the lip area. Then only apply the lipstick.
You should apply a little white shadow on center of the lips over lipstick and then spread slightly.
You should avoid applying very dark shades of lipstick as it makes the lips look even thinner.
If one lip is thinner and you want to make lips appear balanced, outline thinner lip just outside natural lip line.

Fuller Lips:
For the fuller lips you should spotlight lip-gloss right in the center of your lips.
The fuller lips really do not need lip liner. But if you like to have those looks then soften edge with your finger.
The fuller lips should not wear any lip color that is too glossy or shiny.
If you want to make lips appear fuller outline lips just outside natural lip line. Fill in lips with pencil lipstick.
Line fuller lips along natural lip line. Fill in new lip shape with lipstick.

Luscious Lips
Give the finishing touch to your makeup with luscious, brightly colored lips.
Why to hesitate for selecting the shades such as red, pink, orange and even silver to apply on your lips.
Shine and shimmer your lips with various glosses in addition to some wild color.
You should keep your stick on your lips by applying gloss over them or using long-lasting lipsticks.
You should go light on eye makeup to attract attention to your wild lips.

Research confirms what many parents instinctively feel when they don’t like to spank their child, but they don’t know what else to do. The latest research from Dr. Murray Strauss at the Family Research Laboratory affirms that spanking teaches children to use acts of aggression and violence to solve their problems. It only teaches and perpetuates more violence, the very thing our society is so concerned about. This research further shows that children who have been spanked are more prone to low self-esteem, depression and accept lower paying jobs as adults. So, what do you do instead?

1 - Get Calm

First, if you feel angry and out of control and you want to spank or slap your child, leave the situation if you can. Calm down and get quiet. In that quiet time you will often find an alternative or solution to the problem. Sometimes parents lose it because they are under a lot of stress. Dinner is boiling over, the kids are fighting, the phone is ringing and your child drops the can of peas and you lose it. If you can’t leave the situation, then mentally step back and count to ten.

2 - Take Time for Yourself

Parents are more prone to use spanking when they haven’t had any time to themselves and they feel depleted and hurried. So, it is important for parents to take some time for themselves to exercise, read, take a walk or pray.

3 - Be Kind but Firm

Another frustrating situation where parents tend to spank is when your child hasn’t listened to your repeated requests to behave. Finally, you spank to get your child to act appropriately. Another solution in these situations is to get down on your child’s level, make eye contact, touch him gently and tell him, in a short, kind but firm phrase, what it is you want him to do. For example, “I want you to play quietly.

4 - Give Choices

Giving your child a choice is an effective alternative to spanking. If she is playing with her food at the table ask, Would you like to stop playing with your food or would you like to leave the table?” If the child continues to play with her food, you use kind but firm action by helping her down from the table. Then tell her that she can return to the table when she is ready to eat her food without playing in it.

5 - Use Logical Consequences

Consequences that are logically related to the behavior help teach children responsibility. For example, your child breaks a neighbor’s window and you punish him by spanking him. What does he learn about the situation? He may learn to never do that again, but he also learns that he needs to hide his mistakes, blame it on someone else, lie, or simply not get caught. He may decide that he is bad or feel anger and revenge toward the parent who spanked him. When you spank a child, he may behave because he is afraid to get hit again. However, do you want your child to behave because he is afraid of you or because he respects you?

Compare that situation to a child who breaks a neighbor’s window and his parent says, “I see you’ve broken the window, what will you do to repair it?” using a kind but firm tone of voice. The child decides to mow the neighbor’s lawn and wash his car several times to repay the cost of breaking the window. What does the child learn in this situation? That mistakes are an inevitable part of life and it isn’t so important that he made the mistake but that he takes responsibilty to repair the mistake. The focus is taken off the mistake and put on taking responsibility for repairing it. The child feels no anger or revenge toward his parent. And most importantly the child’s self-esteem is not damaged.

6 - Do Make Ups

When children break agreements, parents tend to want to punish them An alternative is to have your child do a make-up. A make-up is something that people do to put themselves back into integrity with the person they broke the agreement with. For example, several boys were at a sleep-over at Larry’s home. His father requested that they not leave the house after midnight. The boys broke their agreement. The father was angry and punished them by telling them they couldn’t have a sleep-over for two months. Larry and his friends became angry, sullen and uncooperative as a result of the punishment. The father realized what he had done. He apologized for punishing them and told them how betrayed he felt and discussed the importance of keeping their word. He then asked the boys for a make-up. They decided to cut the lumber that the father needed to have cut in their backyard. The boys became excited and enthusiastic about the project and later kept their word on future sleep-overs.

7 - Withdraw from Conflict

Children who sass back at parents may provoke a parent to slap. In this situation, it is best if you withdraw from the situation immediately. Do not leave the room in anger or defeat. Calmly say, “I’ll be in the next room when you want to talk more respectfully.

8 - Use kind but firm action

Instead of smacking an infant’s hand or bottom when she touches something she isn’t supposed to, kindly but firmly pick her up and take her to the next room. Offer her a toy or another item to distract her and say, “You can try again later.” You may have to take her out several times if she is persistent.

9 - Inform Children Ahead of Time

A child’s temper tantrum can easily set a parent off. Children frequently throw tantrums when they feel uninformed or powerless in a situation. Instead of telling your child he has to leave his friend’s house at a moment’s notice, tell him that you will be leaving in five minutes. This allows the child to complete what he was in the process of doing.

Aggression is an obvious form of perpetuating violence in society. A more subtle form of this is spanking because it takes it’s toll on a child’s self-esteem, dampening his enthusiasm and causing him to be rebellious and uncooperative. Consider for a moment the vision of a family that knows how to win cooperation and creatively solve their problems without using force or violence. The alternatives are limitless and the results are calmer parents who feel more supported.

Full breasts are commonly associated with femininity and sexiness, so it is easy to see why many girls feel unconfident, if nature didn’t bless them in that department. Many women wish they had bigger breasts, but are not willing to go under the knife to achieve that. But not every woman knows that it is easy to make small breasts look bigger and more attractive, by wearing particular types of fabric and design. You can follow these simple tips to enhance your bust line and make it visually fuller.

Padded bra is your best bet to make your breasts appear larger. The same goes for push-up bras that lift your breasts up and bring them close together, to create cleavage. You can also try buying separate inserts to use with other bras.

Thin horizontal stripes will make your chest look wider.

Bright colors and ornaments will attract more attention to your breast area and make your bust look bigger. The same is true with ruffles and glitter.

Use accessories and small details to visually enhance the cleavage area. A thin chain with a small pendant and delicate design will make your breasts look bigger by contrast.

Wear tight and thick materials that will add some volume to your bust.

Make sure you have your back straight. This pushes your breasts out and gives them better shape.

Use make up to visually enhance your cleavage. With a couple of brush strokes it can become deeper looking, making your breasts seems fuller.

If by chance you have 20 minutes time with you then you should try a funky party look. You should slick on a lip color that you have never dared to wear. The twenty minutes time is also enough to vamp up your fingertips with a festive red polish.
Eyes
This time you have got some time therefore you should line both your top and bottom lash lines with the help of a soft-brown pencil.
You can also extend the liner just beyond the corner of your eyes using the smudging technique.
Then you should swipe on a golden-brown shadow from lash line to crease, blending upward.

Cheeks
You should apply the same ultra-blend able cream-blush formulation to the apples of your cheeks.
You may want to pump up your blush to balance out your strong lip and eye colors, depending on your skin tone.

Lips
The ‘Red-alert lips ‘ are a classic holiday custom so why not go for them.
With this pink-gold-brown color combo, you can choose a red with warm berry or gold undertones to keep your colors from clashing.
You should forgo the lip liner.

Nails
You can give a couple of minutes to those sexy, well shaped, red painted nails as they are worth the extra few minutes of careful application time.

There is no doubt that the Lips are the most sensual feature on our face. They play a real important role while communicating with others as they draw others ‘ attention very easily. Therefore it becomes necessary to give careful attention to them when applying lipstick so that they could get compliments.

While applying Lipstick you should always keep in mind that first you should apply the lip liner and then only the lipstick.

A. Lip Liner
B. Lipstick

Applying Lip Liner First
The lip liner helps you give your lips a neatly defined edge, which decides the shape of your lips. Though the Lip liner is optional but when you are using it, it should be used before the lipstick. The lip liner keeps the color from bleeding and it gives you a guideline for applying your lipstick.

1. You should use a Lip Liner prior to applying the lipstick.

2. You should use the lip liner that is either neutral or matching to the color of the lipstick. Always use a liner that is a shade or two darker than your lipstick, stick with the same tone.

3. You should not use a lip liner, which is darker than the color of your lipstick. Because when the lipstick fades after sometime and the liner does not, you are left with just an outline, which looks odd.

4. To apply the lip liner you should start drawing an outline from the center of your upper lip. And gradually come to each outer corner, following the edge of your natural lip line or the way you want your lips to appear.

5. To make the sharpening easier, before applying the lip liner you can chill the lip pencil in the refrigerator for a few minutes.

Applying The Lipstick
For applying the lipstick in right way you should first apply the lip liner and then only go for the lipstick.
1. Apply the Lip Liner first.

2. Then apply a little moisturizer on your lips. It will not only soften your lips but also help the Lipstick glide on more easily on your lips.

3. A dusting of powder or a bit of foundation beneath lipstick can maximize its staying power. Therefore you should apply a light coat of foundation on your lips. This will act as a base on your lips and also help even out the color of your lipstick.

4. Now it is time to outline the natural edge of your lips, which you could do with a Lip Pencil. But it should not be more than one shade darker than the Lipstick that you are planning to use.

5. At the time of applying the Lipstick you should relax your mouth in such a way that it opens slightly. Stretch your lips and starting at the center of top or bottom, glide color to corners.

6. Now with the help of a Lip Brush apply your Lipstick starting from the center of each lip and gradually working outwards to fill in the Lipstick on your lips. Start with the right side of the lips, upper lip first. Lip Color should be inside the lip liner, not outside the liner.

7. It is great to add gloss after the lipstick. This will help keep your Lip Color strong and the gloss will stay on longer.

If you want a deeper effect of lipstick, then press your lips gently against a tissue in such a way that it does not smudge or remove too much of your Lipstick. And then you should apply another coat of the lipstick.

Insert a finger inside your mouth and withdraw it slowly. Doing so will help you prevent your lipstick from sticking to your teeth and also to remove any excess lipstick from inside your lips.

When shopping for a sandal, you will soon realize you have different options. Most, if not all sandals are backless shoes that are held in place by a thong or strap that comes between the first two toes.

Another type of sandal has a band of material that wraps around the top of your foot, therefore not needing a thong or strap between your toes.

When considering the purchase of a sandal, keep in mind the two options mentioned above. Some people have a hard time adjusting to the feeling of a strap or thong between the toes and it can also be irritating or cause a rash. But with time, your feet and toes will get use to the irritation and after the “break-in” period, you may find the thong/strap type sandal to be more comfortable. Or you just may want to choose the type of sandal that covers the top of your foot but has no thong or strap between the toes.

Another thing to look for in a sandal is quality. Always make sure to look at the seams. If the sandal has been sewn in places, check the thread for double stitches and make sure no fraying has occurred. Some sandals have layers that are glued and these layers need to be checked as well to see if the glue has separated. Always use common sense and look over the sandal carefully to find any defects and always look for a quality product.

Always remember, you get what you pay for. Cheaper sandals may feel good on your feet for a while, but when they start breaking down, your feet will pay the consequences. Broken straps or worn out thin soles could possibly give your foot problems, but could also be dangerous and could cause a trip or a fall.

Use these tips when buying a good quality brand name sandal. Make the right choice for you and your feet.

A lack of self esteem results in many behavioral problems, difficulty in learning and performing and a lot of emotional problems due to lack of confidence. A healthy amount of self esteem on the contrary gives your child the ability to accept his mistake and learn from them and be open to criticism.

You as a parent can do the following to enhance his self esteem.
First of all, make him feel important. Do not ignore what he is saying and value his opinions even though you might not agree with them.

Keep telling him that you love not just him but also the way he is. That is, not just because he is your child but because of the way he is as a person.

When you want to correct him, try and correct his behavior. Tell him that the thing that he did was wrong, instead of telling him that he was wrong.

Try and understand that it is not possible for your child to behave correctly all the time.

Children like grown ups experience a lot of emotions but they do not know how to handle them. Due to this, they might be behaving in an unusual manner. Your being understanding during these mood swings and providing them with love and support will help them maintain their confidence.

Make your approach positive. While teaching them anything, use positive language.

If your child is taking time in following something, instead of saying that he’s not getting it right, say that he has almost got it. Instead of saying that he is wrong, say that he is almost right.

If your child comes home to tell you that he is not good at something his classmate is at and you feel that this is making him feel low, let him know that it is understandable to feel this way however it is not necessary that he has to be good at everything.

Tell him that nobody is perfect and point out something that he might be really good at.

Do not show too high expectations from your child as he will keep measuring his performance according to how much he has met your expectations. If they are to unrealistic and he is not able to match them then obviously he will start feeling that he is incapable of something.

Also do not show that you expect too less of him as that might make him feel that you do not think he can perform better.

Another important lesson that you need to give to your child which will help him have a good self esteem is to accept his mistakes and learn from them. Everybody makes mistakes, it is only human to do so. What is important is to not get disheartened by them but to learn from them and move ahead.

A child with high self esteem becomes a better learner and a more confident and secured person. Since he respects himself, his values, morals and the way he is, he is able to respect and accept others better too.